Personal Way Is Important

Yesterday I taught English for an adults group. One of the group's member asked me about :

Pembebasan Bersyarat in English. Finally I could tell him that PEMBEBASAN BERSYARAT in English was CONDITIONAL DISCHARGE = a judgment from made by a court that allows someone who has done something illegal not to be punished if the obey rules set by the court.

In the class we also discuss about making an extra lobby by using an informal method, here is the way :

If you have difficulties in doing cooperation with some through formal way, please try an informal one, sometime it works. In a formal way, a person may be nice with you, but the action that you are expecting from him/her never become a reality. Trust me there must be some thing that the person expects from you. The cheaper way to make a close relationship with someone is sending him/her a card (birthday, success, religion's celebration etc). May be you send something, not only card, but in the form of handicraft with your name card in it.

The message is : Do not always use formal way, because it will always have relation with position, He/she will think that people respect him/her only because of his/her position (not as a person). "People like to be given something and like to be respected personally", it means that if someone who pays attention to him/her personally not because of his/her position but as a person.